Blog Post-Happiness
When you are dealing with children I
firmly believe that it is not beneficial to have everyone win the game to save
face in fear of hurting someone’s feelings.
As humans we begin to be taught at a very young age to do things and act
a certain way. As you and I know if we
were to be taught at a young age that we are always the winner we would be
setting ourselves up for an epic failure in life. If we teach our children that it is okay to
win all the time when they really did not what expectations are we setting for
them to help them succeed in life? How
would it be to always be the winner or the best, then compete against someone and
lose? I do not think you would even be
able to tolerate it. I see a glimpse of
it as I deal with my kids. I have a 5
year old who gets completely butt hurt if he is not the winner all the time and
a seven year old who loves to rub it in his face. I have to keep explain to my five year old
that it is okay you don’t have to be the winner all the time. We need to allow other people the opportunity
to win so they too can feel the feelings of being the winner. Not only does it boost our self-esteem to be
the winner but it allows us to also deal with our emotions if we don’t win so
that we don’t become vain and selfish and think that the world revolves around
us. This will allow for great teaching
moments for parents to teach their children that life is not always fair. Life will throw us curve balls but as long as
we know how to handle our emotions and the situation we can deal with life on
lifes terms. If we teach our children
young they will also not expect to be the winner or the best all the time. I think that if we teach our children these
valuable skills they will be better off in life and they will be able to handle
upsetting situations better than if they expected a certain outcome. You don’t have to be a winner all the time to
be happy.
